Friday, February 3, 2012

Spread Love, Not Hate


Bullying is nothing new. It has been happening for a long time. It's wrong and sad that people think it is okay to bully others. I don't know if they don't understand how much they are hurting people by doing it, or if they want to hurt them, but either way it makes me sick to see it happening both in real life and online. K.C. Neal and K.M Parr wanted to do a blog hop to spread the word about bullying and try to make people see that it's not okay. Both authors will be doing posts, along with a bunch of other bloggers who have joined up. The links to all of the participating blogs is at the end of this post. 

I would like to start by saying that all of the online bullying through blogs, twitter, and goodreads etc. is absolutely sickening to me. Recently there has been so much of it going on and it's shameful. I will not say any names or specific instances, but there have been many. The bullying has been done on blog posts, and all over twitter for everyone to see. It's not just hurtful to the people who are being bullied either. It's hurtful to everyone. It's easy to say to just ignore it and not let it bother you, but you can't just turn off the hurt feelings.

When I was little I got picked on a lot. I was short, scrawny, I had frizzy hair, I didn't wear name brand clothes, I was good at math and reading so I was called a nerd, and other things too. I would go home from elementary school crying some days because I was being picked on. We lived in low income housing because my mother was a single mom trying to raise two girls herself. The horrible thing is that because I was picked on for where I lived, I was embarrassed, and never wanted to let friends come over or tell people where I lived if they didn't know. I shouldn't have been ashamed at all, but people made me feel like I should. We moved to a house in a different section of town when I was in 4th grade, and things got a little better. Once I got into middle school it wasn't as bad, and in high school not at all, but I still remembered how much it hurt. I always stood up for people who were being picked on and bullied. I don't have any personal story about a certain instance when I was bullied, or I helped someone who was. It was a lot of little things, but little or big it's still not okay.

When I see or hear of people bullying others, all I can think is, What's wrong with these people? Why would anyone want to say or do things to hurt others, especially when they don't know them at all? Does it make them feel good about themselves? Are they that insecure that they need to make others feel bad? I don't think I will ever know the answers to these questions. I could never imagine treating others like that. Everyone is entitled to think what they want, but people need to learn to keep their thoughts to themselves if it will hurt others. I hope that some of the bullies out there read these posts and realize what they are doing it wrong. I sincerely hope that if they knew how much what they are doing hurts people, that they wouldn't do it. Please just try to think about how you would feel if you were on the receiving end. There is no reason to ever make people feel bad. There is already enough hate in this world, we don't need to add to it. So please take the words of this blog hop to heart. SPREAD <3, NOT HATE!
Below are the links to the other stops on this blog hop. Please stop by to read their stories.

23 comments:

  1. Awww...this makes me want to bug "little girl Amy". I think almost every kid gets bullied at some point., but my heart goes out to those that experience if daily. The best you can do sometimes is to teach your kids to be kind people, not to bully and to stand up for others.
    This was a lovely post. Well done to KC and KM!

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    1. Yes, and there is a big difference between being pick on a s a kid and bullying. I am fortunate that I didn't have it bad, but I really tried to stand up for the people who were being bullied.

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  2. Oh wow I was short scrawny and flat, dull hair! haha. Nerds FTW! This is a great post though and I agree blog bullying it totally lame and I don't get the point of it really. It's a freaking book blog! And authors should know they're going to get negative reviews. It's a guarantee! Well said Amy! :)

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    1. It really makes me so sad, and it seems to be happening constantly lately.

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  3. Awesomely said! Kids can be so cruel to one another, can't they? I tend to hold their parents responsible for their cruelty, or someone really close to them anyway.
    "Spread <3, not Hate!" ftw!

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    1. It's a shame. Those mean little kids are probably some of the ones who grow up to be the mean adult bullies. :(

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  4. thanks for sharing! I am so happy so many have a voice against bullying


    http://melissa-justoneopinion.blogspot.com/2012/02/spread-not-hate.html

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    1. Thank you for stopping by. I will definitely be checking out the other blogs on this hop.

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  5. Love this blog hop topic... Bullying is one of those things i feel so strongly about.. Thank you for sharing!

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    1. Thanks for stopping by Michele. I am really glad that KC and KM put this hop together. It's something that really needed to be addressed.

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  6. I love that you stand up for others! Thank you for joining in and blogging with us, Amy. <3

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    1. You are so welcome! I think it's so great that so many people signed up! It's awesome that you put this blog hop together.

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  7. I seemed to come into the book blogging community at a really awkward time (I just started my blog a few weeks ago). But even though there has been a lot of this bullying and rudeness going on, I know that there are still plenty of bloggers who are kind and I'm still excited to become a part of this community!

    But I agree - any kind of bullying is wrong, and we should be lifting each other up, because we're all in this for the same reason - we love books and we love to talk about them! We're all human - we make mistakes, but because we're all human we should realize that we all have feelings, and that we are all equal. Who you are or how many books you've reviewed or whether your an author or not doesn't make you above anyone. You said it right - people should keep their opinions to themselves if it is something that could hurt someone else.

    Great post and this is a great blog hop! I might have to participate!

    And thanks for stopping by my blog and entering my giveaway!

    Andrea (New Follower)

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    1. Thanks Andrea. It has been really sad to see all the bullying going on lately and I am glad the KC and KM put together this hop to try to get the word out. Great blog btw.

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  8. Yeah, bullying bums me out, too. It's the worst. Thanks for the post! :)
    - Lauren

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    1. It's horrible! I was happy to take part in this event to help spread the word. Thanks for stopping by. :)

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  9. Aww, Amy! I just want to hug you! You have grown into such a beautiful and loving woman. Thanks for sharing your story with us and sharing your love. I'm so glad I met you. ♥

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    1. Angeline you are so sweet!! You got me all emotional. I am so glad I met you, and you are a wonderful and beautiful woman too!! *wipes a tear* ♥

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  10. I'm sorry you had to deal with that. Those years can be very hard. Thank you for sharing your story.

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    1. I'm just happy that mine never really went beyond mean little kids picking on each other. I am lucky it wasn't bad. I saw, and stood up for a lot of people who got bullied pretty badly.

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  11. I read this post when it went up and didn't have time to respond until now. I have honestly been truly appaled lately by authors and bloggers alike. Some of the behavior has been truly awful! I am so glad authors and bloggers got together to spread the word that this needs to STOP! I thought you did a phenominal job in expressing why bullying is such a terrible thing and why it needs to end! Great job hun!!!

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    1. Thanks! As soon as I saw that KC, and KM were hosting this I knew I had to do it. It hurts me to know that others are being hurt by bullying, and I wanted to take part in any way possible to help stop it.

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