Saturday, January 18, 2014

Book Girls Don't Cry - To Lend or Not To Lend

Hey everyone!! So we decided to do a Book Girls post this week. The topic is book lending. Do you lend? Do you only lend to certain people? Well, you will find out my lending ways below. Also, don't forget to check out the other Book Girls posts, which will both be on Xpresso Reads for now on since Jenni and Giselle have partnered up!! 

I'm not quite sure how to format this post, so I am just going to go for it and type out my thoughts as I go. I am a bit picky when it comes to lending. I have had bad experiences in the past, so I get all twitchy when lending now. I have about a gazillion rules when it comes to borrowing a book from me. In fact, I would rather send a book to a blogger friend to borrow than to lend to most people I know in real life. I know that they will take care of it and baby it the way I do. I actually lended a friend two audiobooks that I hadn't even listened to yet, and never got them back. Me and the said friend aren't friends anymore, but I had asked for my books back, and she said they were in the mail.... That was like 2 months ago and she lives a town over from me, so I call bullshit on that, but anyways.

Lending rules

Do not crease the binding. I am one of those people who opens the book just enough so I can read comfortably without actually bending the spine at all. I like my books pretty. 

Use a bookmark. I actually lend books with a bookmark in them so there is no excuse to not use it. Dogear my pages and I will turn into the Incredible Hulk and Hulk Smash you. Really... I'm not kidding. 

If you are wearing nail polish, be careful while turning pages. I hate those little colored smears all over the place!! As you all probably know, I am pretty into having colorful, bright, fun nails, but I prefer the polish on my nails, not my book pages. 

Please return in a timely manner. I realize that if the person is a casual reader, they probably take at least a week or more to read a book. That doesn't mean that I want my book missing from my collection for six months. 

Return the book in the same condition I lent it in. I hate it when I get a book back that looks like it was a library book for five years. Wrinkled, creased, unknown substances on them... not cool at all. 

I have many more rules, but I will stop at those. In fact, there are only about three people in real life that I will actually lend my books to because they care for my books like they are my babies. I suppose this isn't the best post in the world, but I don't have much to say on the topic I guess. I'm kind of spastic about lending. So what are your thoughts?


  1. I don't have too many reader friends but my mom likes to borrow my books and I've been trying to get her to get a kindle because she totally ruins books! They come back all creased and wrinkled and I read very gently to keep my books in brand new condition. I don't let her touch my signed books!

    1. I won't ever lend my signed books. I am way too anal about my books for that! I used to lend a lot, but too many people never returned them or would bring them back beat up. Like I said, I would rather spend the shipping to lend to blogger friends than people I know in real life. I know that bloggers respect the book as much as I do.

  2. I've lent my books to my fiance, and he takes really good care of them. I have another blogger friend that I would trust with them, because she's very particular too.
    Back in high school I had lent some stuff (video games and comics) to friends and they completely ruined them. One case was busted because it was left on the floor, so I don't like lending things out anymore unless I know they'll be careful.
    I don't like dog eared pages or having the binding ruined either.

    1. It's the worst when you get things back ruined. That's why I almost never lend anything out anymore.

  3. I am totally with you! I rarely ever lend out my books because I'm really wary of how and if they'll return. I feel like a lot of people messily treat books and I hate it when the spine is unnaturally bended, there are weird stains and stuff on it, or if a page is ruined/dog eared. Confession: I actually used to to dog ear books before I started blogging O_O But now I know how awful it is for the pages so I stopped but it was a bad time lol. Thanks for sharing, Amy! <33

  4. I don't usually lend. Only to people I trust with my books that's for sure.

  5. One of my rules when lending out a book is that you are not allowed to eat or drink anything while reading my book. I do not want drinks stains of ugly food crust on my book.

  6. I've had some horrible experiences with lending, so the list of who I lend to is small. I'm anal about the book spine not being bent, the pages not being smudged, or wrinkled. I like my books to look like they are brand new, even after I read them! Great topic Amy!

    Lindy@ A Bookish Escape


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